On My Institute For Harmonious Living Web Page a recently Posted the Following:

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How do You Know if You Have The Right Life Coach or Counselor?

It occurred to me that many people out there may be experiencing what I had experienced before I decided to become a certified Holistic Life Coach.  I had reached out for help while a teenager, an adult for marital  and again after for singular support to traditional counseling.  Each time I ended my sessions without finding resolution in my issues inside or out.  I realized that many people have become disillusioned with all forms of counselling and many forms of psychiatry because the conflicts that motivated them to reach out for help to resolve never seemed to improve through many expensive sessions with these professionals.  Now let me be very clear, I am not here bashing counselors or psychiatrists etc, I am suggesting that there are others out there, like me, that found this approach simply didn’t work for them.  If like me you have lost faith in counselling and coaching I offer you a list to help clarify how you know if either the specific practice or professional is not for you and that maybe it is time to try a new approach or practitioner.

When your sessions are NOT effective. 

•  You feel worst after leaving then when you came in for the session
•  You still point a finger at everyone or that one other person outside of you
•  The issue you came in to deal with is persisting, and in some cases getting worst
•  You find yourself becoming more depressed as you feel that there is simply no hope to resolve the issue
•  You feel hopeless, helpless, powerless and this does not improve with multiple sessions
•  You find yourself searching for skills and tools to improve your situation and in turn your life and you feel as though you have not learned any constructive approaches to improve anything
•  You simply stop going because you don’t feel like it is helping and that you might even get more support from talking to a friend and save more money

Signs That you have the Right Coach/Counselor

•   You feel better after a session then when you came in
•   You recognize your role in everything you have created in your life the good and the bad
•   This issue(s) you came to sessions to resolve are improving steadily with each visit
•  You find yourself feeling more and more condfident and happy seeing improvments over time
•  You feel empowered stronger and more capable after each visit
•  You have learned many skills and tools you can utilize in your every day life to help you in anything that comes your way
•  You achieve so much with your Coach/Counselor that you begin setting goals and attaining them in ways you never thought possible.  Many people who begin seeing the ‘Right’ coaches for assistance with blocks and issues in their lives, once cleared, begin utilizing the expertise of these professionals to set, and achieve goals they never thought they could.  As your needs change the role of the Coach changes too.

I hope this clarifies the difference between effective Coaching/Counseling and ineffective.  If you show ANY of the signs listed in the first list ask around, there is someone out there that can personally recommend a Coach perfect for you.

Amazingly many people with seemingly insurmountable blocks and challenges become the BEST Coaches and Counselors, Why?  Because the empathy and understanding you receive from these experienced individuals comes from first hand experiences with life altering pain and trauma, while proving life beyond the pain can not only exist but be happier and more free from toil and pain then some people who seemingly have had very little if any hurdles to over come.  When encouraged and motivated by someone that has been through these challenges and have come out the other side stronger then ever, it inspires you to over come your own.  It makes you feel safe and capable.  We recognize our own strength when we see someone achieve their goals we have a knowing that we too have that power within us to achieve our own.  If you are one of these lvely people who wishes to follow a calling to help other heal, I would LOVE to assist you on your path.  Email me at info@instituteforharmoniousliving.com and I would be more the happy to start you on your path to complete freedom from drama and enjoying fulfilled purpose.  Check out this site under workshops and classes for more info on this course year 1 and year two options, Holistic Life Coaching and Energy Psychology Certification Programs. **for more info go to https://instituteforharmoniousliving.wordpress.com/

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I got thinking about it and I realized that many people entering HHDS have similar problems choosing an Energy or Holistic Practitioner.

So let me list a few things that should alert you to either change the energy treatment or energy practitioner:

• The issues you have come in to address have not improved
• The Practitioner keeps referring to themselves as ‘Your Healer’ or makes you feel that you do not have any power in your own healing that only ‘They’ can help you
• You feel very drained after each session (Some people feel very tired or relaxed after a session, this is different from feeling like your energy is drained)
• You feel negative after a sessions
• You feel apprehensive before going in even after a visit or two (Sometimes we feel apprehensive before trying something new, this is different)
• Your energy practitioner discourages you from trying other modalities with other practitioners
• Your energy Practitioner starts to cross boundaries making you feel uncomfortable either physically, emotionally or spiritually

Signs that you are enjoying the right energy treatments and practitioner:

• The issues you have come to address are improving
• The practitioner reminds you that you are in the drivers seat, they are simply there to help and offer healing energy, that the energy has it’s own intelligence and it already knows what to do.  They remind you that they are simply a conduit for the energy and the body, once clear of blockages heals itself.  They even suggest trying more modalities and other practitioners because that is what is best for you.
• You feel VERY relaxed, calm, peaceful, emotional, tired (in a good relaxed way, and feel energized after a good nap while the body readjusts to the new healthy energy)
• You feel excited about future appointments as you see improvement in your health and mental clarity, you leave feeling positive
• You feel safe and at ease during your sessions knowing your energy practitioner respects your boundaries

**It is very important that you stay in the drivers seat regarding your mind, body and spirit growth and health.  You must be your own advocate always, regardless of whether you are with a traditional family physician or energy or holistic practitioner. If you have concerns make yourself be heard, if they are not listening, find someone new who will respect you and your concerns..