How We Have Let Men Down
‘Guys Don’t Do stuff Like That!’
‘That Stuff Is For Girls’
‘I Don’t Need To Do Stuff Like That’
HHHMMM You may be asking yourself what are these comments in response to.
Getting a Manicure, Pedicure or Facial, even sometimes Energy Work or a Massage.
For some this comes as no surprise as many still believe in the old outmoded way that these services include nail polish and flowery lotions and should only be for the weaker sex that ‘Need’ pampering to survive.
For a small percentage however, this comes as a shock as a growing amount of men and women are recognizing the need for men to begin integrating Self Care into their lives. A new Label, ‘ManScaping’ has been thrown around, or even ‘MetroSexual’ Men. I have my own label for it………….
Aside from a few obvious physical attributes that do not match everything about men and women in every other way does. We all have the same Mental, Physical, and Emotional needs, this can not be denied, so why are we not attending to the very basic needs of our men and if anything chasitizng them for it?
In an effort for Women to find equality, Men seem to have gotten misplaced and caused to become off balance as they try to get their footing on what their ‘Role’ is. It saddens me that where I celebrate the strength women have shown in almost fully gaining equality, yes I say Almost. Men have lost their way too, however where women tend to be more nurturing with each other as we find our way through the confusion, men are still attempting to shake off the ‘Roles’ and ‘Belles’ they were raised with, with little to no support.
‘Boys should be tough’
‘Boys don’t cry’
‘All that hair and nail stuff is frew frew and girlie stuff’
‘Guys don’t ‘share’ their feelings, just shake it off dude’
‘It shows weakness to ‘Need’ anyone or anything’
‘It’s weak to show vulnerability, and BE vulnerable in a setting where someone else is nurturing them’
Why have we let our Testosterone counter parts down so?
I encourage you to read these articles to open your eyes to the startling reality that we as a culture have dropped the ball here. I can not stress enough (Pun Intended) how important it is that we treat and educate our small boys and girls how immensely crucial it is that we teach equality from in the womb. Many could fear this thinking our ‘Men’ are our strength and protection and if they become ‘soft’ will our culture fall apart? I think this is old thinking, and unhealthy. Many strong women (Including those currenlty serving our country in uniforms) would argue they do not ‘Need’ a man for strength or protection but ‘Choose’ to share their life with a man for mutual enjoyment and equality.
I think we are standing in new territory, so I invite you to look at our new culture as one where both sexes are strong, watch each others back through tough times, celebrate in the good times and can show a full spectrum of balanced emotions. I believe that a man is equally capable of raising a family, and teaching his children culinary and domestic skills while instilling emotional and psychologically balancing traits to their off spring, equal to their counter parts. I believe that women are equally as capable of ‘Bringin home the bacon’, Kicking ass and taking names and showing strength and fortitude in mentally, physically or emotionally challenging situations.
So let’s be real here. If we are truly to be equal sexes, then we must observe this in all areas. Let’s show our guys they deserve nurturing, not because it’s pampering, but because it’s maintenance. It wouldn’t hurt some of our lady friends to recognize this for themselves too. Anyone who has ever had any of the previously mentioned services will attest to the fact that it goes far deeper then the physical, which alone is scientifically proven to improve health, but healing the mind and emotions on far deeper levels.
So while you entertaining yet another tie for the Guy on your Christmas list this year…..Consider the gift of equality through desperately needed nurturing to our Masculine counter parts.
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